Some things are great when you have a system that works for you: your favorite show, perfectly sunny spring days, your trusty nail artist. Your bedroom adventures, though? Probably not one of them. Even the hottest adventures in the bedroom need new sex positions to add variety, otherwise, things may get less exciting. When you introduce something fresh and new into the bedroom, you set yourself up for a more stimulating experience and an even bigger finish. Your brain craves newness and variety, and your brain is super involved in your excitement and satisfaction. One common challenge to long-term relationships is the loss of novelty in the bedroom. Exploration in the bedroom amplifies emotional intimacy and encourages partners to grow together.
It’s not about being able to do all of these varied positions, it’s more about finding the best ones and moves that you can connect with and that allow you to connect with your partner.
Sometimes sex can be easier said than done. You might be curious about contortionist positions when they’re just not in the cards for your body or flexibility level, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Sometimes too much twisting or contorting can make it even harder to achieve orgasm. So what’s the solution? Working smarter and not harder by using positioning aids to help make all positions more comfortable. It’s not about being able to do all of these varied positions, it’s more about finding the best ones and moves that you can connect with and that allow you to connect with your partner.
Tula Toy Mount Positioning Pillow
You might think the Tula is just a Toy Mount but it basically turns your favorite sex toys into the ultimate sex-machine. Designed for straddling, grinding, and putting yourself in comfortable positions while masturbating or with a partner, the Tula includes a multi-slot design that securely holds onto dildos, vibes, and full-sized wireless massage wands. The benefit of the Tula is how it can be used in a multitude of ways!
The Tula isn’t just an average pillow, it is made from super-dense foam that helps keep the body supported and lifted during foreplay or oral sex.
With this kind of versatility at your fingertips, the world is your oyster. The top pocket provides flange support and lets you customize the depth, angle, and length of your sex toy. The side pocket can grip a variety of sex toys for standing, kneeling, or sitting positions. The Tula isn’t just an average pillow, it is made from super-dense foam that helps keep the body supported and lifted during foreplay or oral sex. This offers more accessibility for those with limited flexibility. Compatible with most toys, you receive hands-free stimulation wherever you want it. All you need is your favorite toy and a little creativity.
Have your partner grind against a wand that is protruding from the Tula, or lean them over it to give you a better angle for penetration. The Tula will support their weight and give them better leverage to grind their body into whichever toy you selected.
Wands are great sex toys to use with the Tula. If you’re solo and want to be able to grind against a wand in a variety of positions, or if you want to be able to incorporate it into partner play hands-free the Tula is a comfortable and easy way to do that.
This is also a great accessory to use with the sex positioning chair. Simply slip your favorite insertable in the top part and put the chair over the pillow to have an easy way to bounce and ride it while taking it easy on your knees and joints or simply putting on a show for your partner or fans.
Talea Spreader Bar
The Talea Spreader Bar is an ideal tool for exploring next-level kinky sex positions. It provides both restraining and spreading options and complete immobility and access to erogenous zones. Having a padded bondage spreader bar that also serves as a sex positioning bolster just makes sense. Being able to lean and position your partner on the bar that is restraining them or holding their limbs apart can make the restraint more comfortable. Not every bondage situation has to be uncomfortable, sometimes you can put your submissive in a comfortable position and spend hours on a scene.
Talea gives unparalleled support under the head or knees and provides a slight pelvic tilt when used under the hips.
The Talea is a unique bondage restraint pillow that has cuff connector points on each end to keep your play partner’s legs or arms spread apart. You can easily attach cuffs using the included sturdy snap clips. The Talea also includes two D-ring connectors that can also work with silk sashes or rope. Because it’s made from high-density foam with a PVC rod insert, the pillow can help prevent your play from injuring your joints. As a positioning aid, the Talea gives unparalleled support under the head or knees and provides a slight pelvic tilt when used under the hips. The only limit is your imagination. Discover all the sexy ways you can be sensually free while being erotically bound.
Use the Talea to get leverage and comfortably lift your legs. Now you won’t have to hold your legs up with your hands anymore, leaving them free to explore more exciting body parts. Once your legs are pulled back, your partner will be able to reach greater penetration and access just the right spot, resulting in a more satisfying experience for both of you!
Tilt your pelvis up with the Talea and get deeper. It can make new positions easier and more satisfying by deepening the angle of penetration to heighten sensation and reach the G-spot or prostate.
Or use the Talea as a more traditional restraint bar with added comfort. Despite still being an effective spreader bar, it is also a soft yet sturdy pillow that you can lean on, which makes it much more comfortable to use for beginners and advanced players alike.
Sex Wedge Positioning Pillow
The Liberator Sex Wedge has been called the best sex pillow ever made. This sex wedge has a high-density inner foam core that keeps your bodies connected, lifted, and supported no matter what position you’re trying. The Wedge has an incredibly versatile shape that can be used in a variety of ways. You can even use it as a fulcrum point under the knees for adding leverage during thrusting. It’s the top sex pillow for deeper penetration and G-post stimulation. You’ll even be able to extend your oral sex sessions and reduce the pain in your neck by slipping the Wedge under your lover’s lower back for added lift, access, and support.
Get better leverage for oral, or deeper penetration while still maintaining the comfort of both partners. The Wedge simply helps you get into positions that would be difficult to get into without support.
Let the Wedge help you find that perfect angle to send you to bliss without being uncomfortable. The Wedge will support your weight comfortably angling you allowing you to explore comfortably, no matter how flexible you are.
Honorable Mention: Liberator Throe
If we’re going to talk about working smarter and not harder then we have to mention the best invention ever, the Liberator Throe. This waterproof blanket is currently available in travel size or original. If you’re someone who enjoys any type of “messy” or just fluid heavy play then these are a lifesaver, or more accurately, a bed-saver. If you’re sick of having to fall asleep in a puddle of your own squirt, this is a must-have. All you have to do is remember to place it down before you play, and let it catch any liquid that falls on it. Lube, squirt, pee, massage oil, etc. It’s the sexiest way to keep your bed clean, and machine washable so even easiest to clean up!
Figure out what works for you
Using positioning aids can truly make most positions accessible for most people. It’s all about figuring out what works best for your body and catering to your needs and giving your body the support and comfort it needs to not only feel good but be able to reach orgasm. What makes a sex position the absolute best position is always subjective. We each have our own varied sexual fantasies, desires, and preferences. It also depends on what your end goal is. Sometimes, you just want to get down and dirty; other times, you may want to strengthen intimacy, and sometimes you might want to try and achieve both. If you’re still on the hunt for more ideas Daily Sex is a great reference point.