Locked Cocks

Chastity has always tickled my fancy. As a woman who is generally the receiver of restraints, the thought of a penis in a cage makes me smirk and wiggle my eyebrows mischievously. Chastity devices are designed to prevent access to your most sensitive areas, and while there are chastity belts that can prevent access to a vulva, chastity for penises appears to be a lot more popular and visible in the world of kink.

The term calls to mind imagery of toxic, puritanical concepts of, well, chasteness, but it also makes me think about all of the very horny people I hear discussing their restricted dick. In fact, I get messages on a near-daily basis from people wishing for me to control their penis or body in some way. I think it’s hot, and some of the more devoted kinksters with more detailed fantasies are into it, which makes it quite interesting to hear about as well.

Personally, I’ve had one IRL experience with chastity. While it was not something my partner and I had ever considered trying, he was a kinky partner and excited to try anything I was eager to explore. We didn’t have any power exchange play in our repertoire, we just liked exploring sensation play. While it never turned into a regular thing for us, he enjoyed it more than he expected, and found it to be a fun aspect of gender play for him as well since it restricted the ability to have penetrative sex. I still have the cheap, way-too-heavy cage as a keepsake.

Cock cage quality counts, and unfortunately, that does sometimes mean paying a little bit more money for something awesome. This is true for all genres of sex tools, but especially so for chastity cages. Not only are you able to slip out of/break a cheaper cage, but it also can seriously injure you (one review of a cheap cage for sale mentioned the cage left behind scars due to cuts and scrapes.) One of the top manufacturers of plastic/resin cages is CB-X, and you can find identical models for $20, but I strongly caution anyone against buying a suspiciously cheap cage.

Besides my one experience with cages and my experience selling them, I know most of what I know from talking to people online about it. So, I decided to ask some cock cage enthusiasts to share what they love about it! While everyone likes cock cages for different reasons, it is quite interesting to see some common themes amongst these opinions.

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(Responses have been edited for length)

Nick, 21, Musician

I’m in chastity to chase a full body and prostate orgasm as well as give my partner some sexual dominance. It makes me feel deviant when I’m wearing my cage out of the house. I also feel submissive, have heightened libido, and notice that after wearing it for a while, I’m more sensitive in my erogenous zones. When I had been locked in by my mistress for the first time. I felt so submissive and naughty, I knew this was for me.

I enjoy submitting my ability to penile orgasm to someone and seeing them get gratification from giving them a sexual element of control over me. My best friend, my mistress, and a few friends with benefits all know I’m in chastity. I make sure to shower or have my cage, usually with me in it, submerge in water after any exercise or if I sweat. The longest I’ve been in chastity has been 1 month.

Yes, I play with my self in a cage using a vibrator. It differs from being out of a cage because when I’m locked up I have to do something most men don’t experience to get the most pleasure, a full body orgasm. Unlike [when I just touch my penis], I stimulate all of my erogenous zones before I can feel the euphoria of orgasm. It is a completely different sensation then [typical] masturbation men engage in, yet it is mind-shattering and one of my favorite sexual experiences.

It’s not just for the sissy community, or for one type of sexual orientation. All types of [people] like to engage in chastity.

At first, when I brought it up to my first partner I was embarrassed because they weren’t as sexually adventurous and I had to try really hard to explain myself. But now I’m confident in what I like and most of my partners or people who know about it think it’s an interesting topic of conversation. Now I like to bring it up and explain it to the uninformed if they are a sexually open person.

NC, 30, Journalism/Critique Industry

I am in chastity for a variety of reasons, but there’s no one that defines them all. For years before I began, I consumed pornography that featured chastity and I found it enticing, but on a purely sexual level, I didn’t feel a desire pulling me towards it, and didn’t feel comfortable enough to admit it to myself even if I did. Over the past 18 months or so, with a wonderful partner, I’ve felt more comfortable exploring and expanding my sexuality in a wide variety of scopes.

That allowed me to experiment further. With the Dom/Sub relationship that had emerged between my partner and me, I felt comfortable to explore with it. Thankfully, she too took joy in it, and the opportunities it presented for denial and pleasure.

I’m in chastity on and off, dependent on where our sex life is at any one stage. It makes me feel emasculated and objectified, but I also feel sexy and femme. It’s a near-constant turn-on; I like the taboo nature of wearing it around places I shouldn’t, or around people I wouldn’t want to find out I was in it. Fundamentally, it’s a sex thing more than a lifestyle choice, but the two bleed together. There’s no denying that it changes the way I view myself and the world whilst in it.

I enjoy the direct nature of wearing it, and I enjoy the pleasure my partner takes from it. I like how my body looks, and how it forces me to look for release via other avenues. I like how it feels under my clothing, and how excited it makes me. I’m an easy guy to get going, and when I do my penis produces a lot of pre-cum. In chastity, it’s a near-constant stream. My partner likes the opportunities it presents for sexual play, and for feminization. She uses chastity as a tool for gratification and restraint. She’ll use freedom as a reward and punishment interchangeably, depending on where she wants to progress the session.

Wearing it and staying clean is hyper-important. I’m a particularly clean and tidy person ordinarily, but I feel doubly so whilst wearing the cage. I feel pretty gross if it doesn’t get a proper clean at least two times a day. My approach is to use a lot of soap and water and to direct the flow of water as needed in the shower to fully clean the area out. When using the bathroom, I’m forced to sit down and to ensure that there’s a clear shot out the hole at the top: it’s possible for the head of the penis to be misaligned, which is nightmarish.

My longest period is just over a week in a solid stretch, which is about as much as I’m comfortable doing at this stage. Over a 30 day period, I’d say that the most I’ve worn it for would be around 10-15 days.

Outside of ordinary sex and interplay with my partner, I still masturbate while locked up. Ordinarily, I masturbate by jerking off my penis, with anal play semi-regularly. In chastity, I primarily engage in anal play and light BDSM (spanking, etc). I don’t cum often when in chastity, which means I tend to play until I’m satisfied. It’s a significantly different feeling: part of what makes it easy to have a penis is that there’s a definitive endpoint when masturbating. In chastity, not so much.

I think there’s this assumption that it’s overwhelmingly painful, or that your penis is constantly straining for an erection and being cruelly forced out of shape. That’s true to a minor extent, but my experience is that I end up staying semi-flaccid, extremely turned on, and comfortable. There’s no denying that wearing it makes me feel more femme and sexy/slutty, and far more inclined to engage in anal sex.

Anonymous, 27, Student & Accountant

I’m currently self-locked, but I am into a wide range of fetishes including chastity, femdom, CBT (cock & ball torture) play, and the list goes on. I would say I’m typically more submissive and feel being locked in chastity is a way of giving up control. I can no longer feel pleasure, orgasm, or even get an erection whenever I desire, only when and if I am unlocked. Being in chastity is a constant reminder of the lack of control I have over being able to receive any pleasure of my own.

When I was younger the whole idea of femdom and serving a mistress always turned me on, then I discovered chastity amongst other interests and the idea really excited me. Being a very horny young man, the idea of not being able to get an erection and being prevented from being able to cum and giving up control of that to someone else really turned me on.

I currently don’t have a partner but have had various online relationships which included them deciding when I was allowed to be unlocked or allowed to orgasm. I do hope one day to have an IRL relationship in which chastity is included. Other than some people online, no one in real life [knows about it]. There definitely is an embarrassing element to chastity, and although I do like the humiliation aspect of it, I’m not sure I want my friends to know my cock is locked in a cage.

The cage I have now is honestly a pretty cheap one, I’m working on getting a newer, better-fitting one. I go days to about a week locked, but I don’t sleep locked. As I said, the cage I currently have is pretty cheap and doesn’t fit great and have woken up in extreme pain when I have tried to sleep in it. Hopefully, I get a better fitting cage soon and maybe even a keyholder, then the length of time I stay locked and whether I sleep in it or not will not be up to me.

I love to play while I am locked. It gets very tight and uncomfortable, but in the best way possible. I have not been able to cum while locked yet, but that is something I’m interested in being able to do. Obviously play is different though. When I masturbate, not caged, everything is free, you feel pleasure, and you orgasm when you’re locked it’s a little more painful and tight but that makes me even hornier.

The world we live in is so male-dominated, and male-focused, that for a man to give up his manhood and sexual desires to be locked up is seen as emasculating. One stereotype about chastity is that the person locked has a small penis. I mean I’m not huge by any means, but I am certainly not small either. But there is an assumption that if a man is in chastity, then he has a small penis. You can actually get a pretty big penis, when flaccid, into a pretty small cage.

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