With Valentine’s day quickly approaching lots of people are thinking about the perfect gift to get for their person. But what if you happen to be single, or that person isn’t a romantic partner or someone you personally share that type of intimacy with. After all, why should couples have all the fun? The theme of this holiday is love. There are no rules that say it needs to be restricted to those only in monogamous pairs. Throw out those antiquated rules about who you have to celebrate love with, and open up Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to celebrate all of the relationships that enrich your life, especially the intimate friendships that you share confidential details of your life with! If you want to spoil your BFF, or your roommate, or even your metamour, then go for it!
After all, why should couples have all the fun? The theme of this holiday is love. There are no rules that say it needs to be restricted to those only in monogamous pairs.
Make it Fashion!
Fashion for kinky people can really run the gamut. This also means it can make a great gift to pick out for a friend. It can mean incorporating a collar into your outfit, or even a harness over a classic white button-down shirt. The Bijoux Collar in particular is delicate and discreet, which is great for everyday wear. But for some folks, it could just mean a fun pin with their pronouns, a Magic Wand, or even a glittery pink bondage mask to let everyone know they’re the party.
A Game to Explore
If you’re trying to make the move from friends to lovers then Sex Talk is the game you should go with. Or if you’re looking for more Truth or Dare, try this easy-to-play version with a variety of different sticks. Or make it extra spicy with a box of just 100 Dares or a role-playing version called A Game of Passion.
Candles, but make it sexy
Candles are always a safe gift, but what about a massage candle? It brings another aspect of not only eroticism but self-care. These massage candles melt at a lower temperature, so after the candle burns for a bit, you’re left with a warm pool of oil. Then you can enjoy the luxurious oil by pouring it directly onto the body for a warm massage, or use it for self-care in place of your daily moisturizer! Made to melt a couple of degrees above body temperature, the massage candles provide more than just a romantic light and fragrance. You can even pour them into your bath for an extra moisturizing bath. Seagrape even has a Sex Magic Candle for the witchy babe in your life, or you can get a whole Sexy Travel Set which is the perfect little self-care kit to-go!
For your kinkier gift recipient, a drip candle will be a better option. Instead of being able to use it as a massage oil, the drip candle will leave a beautiful wax splatter on the canvas of their choice. There are plenty of fun, giftable options for drop candles, vulva candles, penis candles, Blacklight candles, a fox, or just plain pillar with different colors.
Reading is FUNdamental
Books will always be a great gift for all occasions because you can really hone in on your recipient’s interests. It can be as fun and lighthearted, or as healing and exploratory as you want it to be. Truly any topic you can think of, a book on the topic exists! Some faves you might not have immediately thought to gift a friend or someone in your life would be How to Live on the Internet and Not Let It Ruin Your Life a practical guide for anyone who is plugged in, or What Fresh Hell Is This? for your friend going through menopause. Bliss Club for anyone looking for new fresh ideas for the bedroom. Carnal Knowledge for anyone looking for a great shame-free overview in a beautifully shot package. Interested in exploring kink? Check out Wild Side Sex, or Playing Well With Others. Curious about non-monogamy? Then Love’s Not Color Blind and Sex From Scratch are great options. Want something a little more healing? Pleasure Activism or The Body is Not an Apology might be great giftable options to get your friend started on a healing journey.
If you’re not sleeping with someone and you don’t know their preferences it’s hard to pick out a toy for someone, but if you know they’re just starting to explore it makes it a little easier.
Toys, toys, toys
If you’re not sleeping with someone and you don’t know their preferences it’s hard to pick out a toy for someone, but if you know they’re just starting to explore it makes it a little easier. For someone with a penis who’s just looking to explore, the Svakom Hedy comes in quite a few textures and is meant to be disposable, so it’s great to explore a few times then figure out if they want to invest in a toy for keeps. For someone with a G-spot, if you have no idea what to get them, the Wonderlust Serenity is a versatile toy that can be used internally to explore g-spot stimulation, or just externally on any erogenous zone making it perfect to explore.
Backdoor exploration is great because the butt is the great equalizer. We all have one, so the Mood Naughty Kit is a great inexpensive kit for folks to start exploring safely if you know they’re curious about it. Or the Temptasia Twist set is a great set that’s ideal for any hole and makes a great gift for those looking to explore penetration.
They have it all?!
Give the gift of organization. They’re gonna need somewhere to store all those toys and chargers. The Joyboxx is a great option especially if you know they need privacy because it’s lockable and can even fit a wand in it. If you’re looking for cute and large enough to also fit a wand then the holographic bag will be a winner! But if you have a really handy friend then you might need to get them the pleasure pouch that looks like a tool belt! It’s just too perfect!
Season of Love
A well-thought-out gift can really go a long way in showing the people you care about how much you appreciate their presence in your life and all without breaking the bank! Expand your thinking of intimacy and love this year and allow the love in your life to flourish. Just try your best to keep the person’s preferences at the forefront of your mind to not cross any boundaries accidentally. Enjoy the season of love!