Anal masturbation is all about bringing erotic pleasure to the external or internal parts of the anus. Self-pleasuring the anus can be an amazing way to learn about what the anus likes and doesn’t like while going at your own pace.
Why Does Anal Pleasure Feel Good?
While the anus is most popularly known for its role in carrying waste out of the body, it is also an erogenous spot. It has its own pleasure anatomy that can be stimulated independently or simultaneously with other hot spots like genitals. The butthole has many nerve endings that can be stimulated with vibrators or fingers. By stimulating the butthole, you can increase feelings of arousal and help open up blood flow to the tissue in and around the anus.
Self-pleasuring the anus can be an amazing way to learn about what the anus likes and doesn’t like while going at your own pace.
Anal pleasure doesn’t have to involve penetration, but if you decide to penetrate your butt, you might find pleasure there too. Internal anal stimulation can stimulate parts of the internal clitoris and the vaginal wall. Some people also enjoy the feeling of fullness that anal penetration provides.
If you have a prostate, you might enjoy self-stimulating it. The prostate is a gland that can be felt through the rectum, about one to two inches deep towards the front of the body. Although the prostate’s main function is to produce fluid for semen, it has many nerve endings that some people find pleasurable and even orgasmic through massage or vibration.
Are There Benefits To Solo Anal Play?
Sexual pleasure is only one of the benefits of anal masturbation. Other benefits include:
- Tuning into what pressure, depth, and sensations your butt likes
- Learning to relax your mind and body for anal pleasure
- Reclaiming and reconnecting to your body in a way you control
- Increasing your ability to communicate with partners about what feels good
- Exploring erotically with different kinds of anal stimulation (e.g. ice cubes, anal beads, butt plugs)
- Training the anus to take larger penetration over time
- Engaging a new erogenous zone
- Experiencing other types of orgasms like analgasms, prostate orgasms, etc.
If you’re a beginner to anal sex, solo anal play can help you train your anus to relax.
If you’re a beginner to anal sex, solo anal play can help you train your anus to relax. Anal training is a practice that gradually encourages the muscle and tissue of the anus to get more accustomed to penetration. You can explore with an anal training kit, like b-Vibe’s Anal Training and Education Set, which comes with different sizes of butt plugs. Intermediate anal enthusiasts can use anal masturbation for anal training too, especially if you have goals for being able to take larger sex toys or anal fisting.
Playing with your own butt can help keep your anal muscle memory fresh, so when you play with a partner it might be easier to relax and communicate.
How To Clean Your Butt For Anal Masturbation
How you choose to clean your anus is up to you. Some people feel most comfortable cleaning themselves out with water and an enema bulb, while others are fine to risk a little mess.
Next time you’re in the vicinity of your butt during a shower, linger a bit longer while washing it.
Explore playing with your anus in the shower, the warm water can be a relaxing environment to explore. Next time you’re in the vicinity of your butt during a shower, linger a bit longer while washing it.
Make Lube Your Butt’s Love Language
Choose a long-lasting lubricant like a thick water-based lube or a silicone lube (not compatible with silicone sex toys). Start by massaging the butthole with lube and when your anus is relaxed, start to massage the inner muscle of the butthole with more lube.
The anus isn’t self-lubricating, so remember to re-apply lube to anal sex toys or your fingers as you penetrate yourself.
The anus isn’t self-lubricating, so remember to re-apply lube to anal sex toys or your fingers as you penetrate yourself.
Tips For Seducing Your Own Butt
1. Get turned on
Do you like touching your nipples? Playing with your genitals? Watching porn? Reading erotica? Engaging your erotic imagination and your other erogenous zones adds to full body arousal and can intensify pleasure from anal masturbation.
2. Find a comfortable position
Any position that requires too much tension to hold or contort yourself isn’t going to allow you maximum relaxation. Depending on what is comfortable for your body, you might even experiment with props, like sex cushions, pillows, or furniture.
Position ideas:
- Lying on your back and reaching past your spread legs and your genitals to your anus
- On your side with knees up and reaching behind yourself
- Resting on elbows and knees with pillows underneath your pelvis – this position is great for grinding your body and using a remote-controlled butt plug
- Squat or straddle suction-cup dildos attached to the floor or walls
Honor your body’s responses like pain, soreness, or discomfort.
3. Grab your lube and start with external stimulation
Use fingers or knuckles to massage the butthole or try a powerful wand-style vibrator against the butthole. Is there tension anywhere? Does your butt like harder or softer sensations? Go slow. Be patient. Honor your body’s responses like pain, soreness, or discomfort.
4. Penetrate mindfully
Anything you put in your butt needs to have a flared base so you don’t lose it inside yourself. Approach penetration from the top or bottom of the butthole instead of poking your anus straight on with fingers or a sex toy. Use circular motions to relax the folds around the anus and the inner sphincter.
If there’s too much resistance, take a break from penetration and go back to external play or bring attention to another erogenous zone. Remember to breathe and release tension when you notice it. Squeezing and relaxing your anal sphincters around your fingers or sex toy can help relax the anus.
5. Get playful with your butt
Approach anal masturbation with curiosity. Your anal masturbation might be different than your other types of masturbation. Your goal may or may not be orgasm or you might have different fantasies and different pleasure responses (e.g. analgasms, no erections).
Butt plugs that are remote or app-controlled are great for anal masturbation to help you easily adjust settings without having to move the plug.
Start playing with a sex toy:
Butt plugs
Beginner butts benefit from small butt plugs with rounded tips and flexible necks. If you’re an intermediate anal masturbator, explore weighted butt plugs, textured or girthier plugs.
Bigger toys don’t always mean better pleasure. Rimming butt plugs give the sensation of oral sex on your anus. Butt plugs that are remote or app-controlled are great for anal masturbation to help you easily adjust settings without having to move the plug.
Anal beads
Anal beads come in different sizes and some vibrate. Because of their flexibility and length, they can be easier to use depending on your body and position. Some people prefer the sensation of anal beads because of their gentle but firm stimulation. They are a non-intimidating way to explore anal depth too.
Vibrators
Wand-style vibrators are great for external anal play and some have attachments for anal pleasure to transfer those powerful vibrations internally. Other vibrators, like Lelo’s Loki Wave prostate massager, with flared bases can be used inside the anus.
Dildos
Dildos that are flexible on the outside but firm on the inside can feel great for anal masturbation that involves thrusting. The ‘squishy’ texture can protect the anal tissue from getting sore, while the firmness allows the muscles to get accustomed to the penetration.
Double-ended dildos can be used for double penetration during solo anal play.
Glass dildos and some stainless steel wands are great for exploring weight and firmness anally. Double-ended dildos can be used for double penetration during solo anal play. Try suction dildos that you can stick to the wall, floor, or a mirror and masturbate doggy-style or by straddling it.
Prostate Massagers
Sex toys designed for prostate pleasure are curved to help you easily find and stimulate the prostate. Some prostate toys vibrate and some are manually operated, like the Aneros Helix Synd Trident prostate massager, by rocking them internally.
While there isn’t a risk of sexually transmitted infections during anal masturbation, we want to contain bacteria from the butt as much as possible.
6. Clean up
While there isn’t a risk of sexually transmitted infections during anal masturbation, we want to contain bacteria from the butt as much as possible. Your night table stand doesn’t need to have butt bacteria all over it. Try to clean sex toys after you’re done with them or wrap them in your designated butt sex towel until you’re ready to clean them. Be sure to wash your hands with warm water and soap after anal masturbation.
Depending on the type of toy, cleaning care can vary. Tempered glass and stainless steel anal sex toys can be boiled. You can wash motorized sex toys with gentle soap and warm water and non-motorized toys made of metal, glass or silicone can go in the dishwasher (without dishwashing soap).
Enjoy solo anal play as a chance to explore anal pleasure possibilities without focusing on anyone else but yourself. Being relaxed and curious might help you discover a new way to get turned on! Get curious, get playful, and let go of expectations other than pleasure.
