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Butt Play For Beginners

With so many different possibilities for anal play, it’s hard to know where to start. Check out this guide for some of our favorite tips for anal novices!

 

So you want to try backdoor exploration. Or maybe you’ve tried a butt plug and wondered what all the fuss is about butt stuff. Anal sex is pretty polarizing and brings out some pretty strong opinions in people so let’s go over some strong arguments over why you should give anal exploration a try and how to dive in butt first to pleasure. 


  • Feels good. Pleasure is the name of the game after all. The backdoor is full of feel-good nerve endings for everyone, or for some folks, a prostate, which can lead to some pretty intense full-body orgasms.
  • Taboo. Sometimes people telling you not to do something for so long can make something extra enjoyable, doesn’t it?
  • Mess with gender roles. If you’ve never been on the receiving end of penetration, it’s shown to make you a more empathetic lover, so bend over and give it a shot. 
  • New sensations. Haven’t tried it yet? This might be the sensation that helps you reach new and exciting orgasmic heights. Give it a try. If you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it again. 

#1. Cleanliness

People often have questions related to poop and anal sex. While poop doesn’t live in the rectum, there is a chance you might come in contact with some traces. To ensure that doesn’t happen, do an enema and rinse out for peace of mind. Enemas aren’t a requirement, but some people like the peace of mind. For easy clean up, you can also try condoms, gloves, and dildos!

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#2. Warm Up and Lubrication

Butts don’t self lubricate so have plenty of lubricant on hand for safer anal play. Avoid numbing products and tune in to your body’s cues. Silicone lube is slick and long-lasting, but avoid using it with silicone toys. Water-based lubes are great for backdoor play and all toy materials. Oil-based lubrication is not compatible with latex barriers, but Southern Butter Backdoor Healing Balm in particular is great for soothing tender tissue before or after anal!

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#3. Try out non-penetrative sensations first

Anal play shouldn’t hurt, so warming your body up with external play with fingers, tongues, vibration, or having an orgasm can help you prepare for penetration. For solo play, try the InBloom Tulipa Flicking Tongue Vibrator or the Fantasy Ultimate Pleasure Dual Oral Sex Simulator to give you the tongue lashing of your fantasy. You might even find that external play is more your thing than penetration, that’s great also!

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"Grab your favorite lubricant and tools and get in a comfortable position to explore the nerve-rich pleasure center that is your asshole."

#4. Backdoor Dildos

Smoother toys like the Temptasia Twist Set are ideal for beginners. This set is also great because it includes 3 sizes, so you can increase at your own pace. Firm and smooth toys like the Icicles No. 89 glass suction cup dildo are also a great for anal penetration. Remember, all anal toys should have a flared base to avoid getting the toy stuck inside the body.

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#5. Beads

Anal beads are great for warm up and can intensify orgasms! Pull beads out during orgasm to intensify the muscle contractions that happen at climax. Firmer beads like the Tantus Ripple can be used for in and out penetration more easily than flexible beads. If you enjoy vibration, try the Forto Vibrating Anal beads or LuzArte Polka Dot Bubble wand topper, which adds beads to some vibrating wands!

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#6. Explore, explore, explore

Grab your favorite lubricant and tools and get in a comfortable position to explore the nerve-rich pleasure center that is your asshole. Go as slow as you need and if it ever hurts simply adjust something. Try adding more lubricant, using a smaller toy, or even changing positions. It might even be trying another day. Expand your pleasure repertoire and enjoy your backdoor no matter what equipment you have!

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