Big Dildos and How to Shop for Them

Consider what you’re trying to accomplish with the toy you seek! If it’s going to be used anally, make sure it’s anal safe. If you want to target the prostate or G-spot, go with something curved. If you just want the sensation of fullness, think about whether you want a particular texture, versus a smooth shape.

Even if you’ve been using big toys for a long time, be sure to have some toys that can help you warm up before using your big toy. Anything 0.25” to 1” smaller than your big toy will be a good warm-up, but the larger the difference in girth, the more it will feel like a step up when you use your bigger toy. What constitutes a warm-up toy is relative to your experience, however, you’ll still want something to work your way up to the larger sizes if you haven’t used a big toy in a while.

Gel-consistency lubes stay lubey for much longer than thinner formulas, which is important for larger toys that have a bigger surface area and require more glide.

Squishy materials are compressed a bit by the pressure of the body and feel less wide than a toy with the same dimensions made of a very firm material. For instance, a 2-inch pyrex or stainless steel dildo will feel larger than a 2-inch dildo made from a firmer silicone, which will feel larger than a 2-inch dildo made from soft, squishy silicone.

Vibration is another aspect that can influence how easy it is to take a wider toy. A toy made from the same materials in the same dimensions will be a lot easier to insert if it vibrates because vibrations help the body relax, or be more aroused to open up and accommodate a larger size.

Finally, the width of the base or neck of the toy is also an area to pay attention to. A 2-inch plug that has a wide end but skinnier neck (like a typical butt plug shape) will be easier for you to keep inserted than a toy that has the same width, or a widening width, towards the base. While you will still need to open up a certain amount to accommodate the width regardless, your sphincter or vaginal opening will be more at rest with a skinnier base.

External stimulation, whether with a vibrator, air pulse toy, a stroker, or your hands, generally makes penetration easier and more comfortable – and with larger toys, it’s good to have an external stimulus to help your muscles relax.

After all that hard work (or play, rather!) treat yourself to a relaxing decompression time. Even if you’re enjoying some solo play, it’s always good to wind down gradually after some more intense playtime.