How to Wear A Strap On Harness

Strap on play is for everyone. Strap on harnesses are available for trans, nonbinary, and cis people of any body types and sexualities.When it comes to the best way to play strap-on style, the deal is finding the harness that best fits you and your needs. Fabric harnesses are washable, can be worn in water and are simple to put on since most slide on just like underwear. Leather harnesses and vegan leather harnesses are usually adjustable around the legs and hips, which is great if you intend on sharing the harness or your weight fluctuates. The SpareParts Deuce Double Hole Harness is available for penis owners who want to strap up and have a place for their equipment or they can pull it through and use it for double penetration. There are also Thigh Harnesses available for folks with mobility issues, and of course harnesses for plus size folks. For plus size folks you want to look for thicker straps like the Sportsheets Plush Plus Size Strap-On Harness, Sportsheets Lace Corsette Plus Size Strap-On Harness or the SpareParts Joque Double Thigh Strap Harness so that it doesn’t dig into soft flesh. Some other things to consider, do you want full coverage, or access to your genitals? Do you want leather, or fabric so you can wear it in water? Are you allergic to any materials?

Your dildo should have a flared base to keep it in place in the harness. You can also harness it from a suction cup if the dildo has one. Most strap-on harnesses will have either a hole or an O-ring that you slide the dildo into. To choose a dildo that will fit in your harness, first check the diameter of your O-ring on the harness. Make sure you're only measuring the inside of the ring, not the full width of the O-ring. Then check the diameter of your dildo, just above the flared base (where it will sit in the O-ring). Get your dildo in place before you put your harness on - it’s much easier. If your harness has an interchangeable O-ring, make sure the O-ring is attached to the harness before you start. You should be able to simply slip it into the O-ring, if the shape makes it difficult try adding some water-based lube to help it slide in.

If you want to add texture and softness to the base of the dildo for the harness wearer then there are a few options. The Bumpher comes in a few different textures and colors and can fit most dildos. Or the Sportsheets Cushions are great options for those looking to soften the base without adding any texture. Stabilizers can help add stability to dildos that are on the smaller side, or heavy.

Lubrication is essential with strap on play because dildos will all have some drag because of the material. So using plenty of lube will help prevent microtears and just give you a more pleasurable playtime. Water-based lubricants are ideal for strap on play and all sex toy play. Silicone lubes are incredibly slick and long-lasting, but unfortunately can’t be used with silicone toys. Hybrid lubes generally feel silky and last a little longer than water-based lubes because of the little bit of silicone in it, so it’s a great compromise if you love silicone lube and silicone toys because it’s not enough to ruin your toys. Oil lubricants are great for moisturizing the skin, but not compatible with latex, so keep your barriers away.